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Friday, September 01, 2006

Friday Shuffle - Bride and Groom Edition

I went to a wedding this morning. Some friends of ours who have lived together for about ten years decided that they'd take the plunge. They have a seven year old son, Mark, and since next week he'll start first grade they decided that it would be a good idea for Mama and Papa to be married and everyone all share the same last name - up until now Mark had his mother's last name.

My MIL went with me and we got to the marriage bureau where the required civil ceremonies are held shortly before it was time for their scheduled ceremony to begin. The bride wore a cream colored pantsuit and the groom wore...well, he had on jeans and sneakers but you gotta know Ingo. He's the most laid-back person on the planet. I mean he wore shorts to my wedding reception and at the time we all commented "Wow! He dressed up! No holes in his shorts!".

We all went into one of the rooms where the ceremonies are held, took our seats, listened to the canned romantic music and waited for the marriage celebrant to begin. I'd like to say that in Germany you're married by a judge or something but it's just a bureaucrat. She began the ceremony, Ingo, Tina and Mark sitting together up front listening to how significant it was that they were legally joining together their little family, and it wasn't long before I was remembering my own wedding ceremony that had been held in the very same room. And it wasn't long after that when my eyes began to well up. There wasn't a dry eye in the room actually.

The image and significance of marriage has changed over the decades. I grew up at a time when it was still fairly rare that couples would live together without marrying first and even more rare that they would have kids but now it's so common that it barely raises an eyebrow. There are people that feel that they don't need marriage to have a legitimate relationship and there was a time when Ingo and Tina were felt the same. Even after their son was born, they didn't feel any burning need to marry and it wasn't until it was time for Mark to enter school that they decided to marry. That event has prompted them to marry because they want to show to the world that they are a single family. It's not Ingo with one last name and Tina and Mark with another last name - from now on it's going to be all three sharing the same family name. Sharing that name is their way of showing their bond.

I have to admit that while I don't object to unmarried people living together, I'm a bit of a sucker for marriage. There's something about it that's special. Yeah, technically it's a formality - a piece of paper - but in reality it's more than that. It's two people saying to all the world that they are committed to one another. That they believe in their relationship so much that they wish to be legally bound to one another. There's that leap of faith that couples take when they decide to marry and I admire those who take leaps of faith.

As the ceremony was winding down the marriage celebrant was saying how they would all have the same last name now and she said to Mark "Are you happy that now you'll be Mark Bunk?". Mark took a second to think and then said "No! Schräder sounds better than Bunk!".

We tried later to convince him that he'll soon appreciate having the last name of Bunk since it'll be less writing and he'll have to spell it for others a lot less. I think he bought it but then again at that moment he was pretty into throwing rice around on everyone. He really liked the rice part.

So let's shuffle for the happy bride and groom. Rice throwing optional.
  1. Pressing Lips - Pursuit of Happiness
  2. Stardust - Glenn Miller Orchestra
  3. Wind In The Willows - Blackmore's Night
  4. Somebody To Love - Queen
  5. To Be With You - The Mavericks
  6. Kiss - Dean Martin
  7. Stand By Me - John Lennon
  8. Mull of Kintyre - Paul McCartney
  9. Never My Love - The Association
  10. ('Til) I Kissed You - Everly Brothers
Evidently the shuffle is a sucker for a wedding too.

Have a love filled weekend.

9Comments:

Blogger Expat Traveler said...

your friday shuffle made me think about this man who clearly couldn't dance that I nearly dropped over laughing at his dancing... Just the name "the friday shuffle" did it...

Picture a white man in his 50's getting his groove on in the car... LOL


:)

2:11 AM  
Blogger PapaScott said...

Funny thing about the name. We got married in the States and kept separate last names. When we moved to Germany, we saw no reason to change that, so our Familienbuch has a long legal explanation how my name is under American law, my wife's name is under German law, and that the family name is my last name.

But when our son was born, my wife decided she didn't want to be the only non-Hanson in the house, so she went with a hyphenated last name.

Even today some people get confused about our name and whether we are really married. It's fun to use it to confuse telemarketers ("Frau Hanson, no, there is no Frau Hanson...").

6:05 AM  
Blogger zoe xx said...

LOVE a wedding - going to one this evening actually.

Did the IPOD really randomly throw that list up??? Life can be very very spooky sometimes...

2:49 PM  
Blogger marshamlow said...

I love to cry at weddings. I love the concept of marriage, the making of a sacred promise. Very beautiful.

11:45 PM  
Blogger Katya said...

I changed my name on the basis that it would be a lot easier to spell and that turned out not to be true -- I have to spell my last name now (7 letters -- very common) almost as much as I did then.

9:12 PM  
Blogger Katya said...

And I forgot to say the one thing I wanted to say -- I'm also a sucker for marriage -- for the idea that two people would make vows to each other like that. And I cry at weddings almost every time I go.

9:14 PM  
Blogger Dixie said...

Zoe - Bixente the iPod did indeed shuffle those ten up. The shuffle is very, very wise...

10:08 PM  
Blogger Office Manager Mom said...

Dixie, I also value the wedding ceremony, the vows, the commitment to each other. It brings back wonderful memories of my own wedding ceremony a little over 23 years ago. I always cry when the bride and groom dance and the bride and father...I am a sucker for beautiful weddings. thanks for sharing.

1:05 AM  
Anonymous Belinda said...

I haven't gone to a wedding in ages. The last one I went to was my cousin's. She and her hubby are very, ummm, non-emotional people. This is the only wedding I've been to where no one cried.

Hopefully at mine, there will be sniffling all around....I love that part :D

we're going to see the guy at the rathaus to make an appointment. Nervous and excited.

AND!
I still don't have shoes lol

9:13 AM  

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